Given the fact that I spend so much time serving victims, talking with victims, and sharing my story of once being a victim…it makes sense that I would hear a great deal of sadness.
But I also share my time with a large number of people who have never had any major life trauma, and even they have trials and tribulations, regularly.
And thus I find myself saying on a regular basis…. “everybody has a something”….every single one of us has something they are struggling with or someone they are struggling with.
For some of us, that something is overcoming childhood trauma, for some it’s getting rejected from your “dream” college, for some it’s not getting asked out by the boy you’ve been dreaming of for years, for some it’s challenges at work, some have heath problems they deal with daily….every body…has a something.
We all face hard times. And while it’s easy to feel alone when we are suffering, I’m here to remind you that you are NOT alone! And you can overcome your something. You can move beyond, and work through it. The secret to surviving any adversity is embracing all parts of it, and learning when to let each piece go when you’re able to.
This act of embracing all aspects of your something, includes the sadness of any situation life brings you. You must learn to understand and live through whatever sad feelings you have and embrace them. But the key is not focusing on your sadness for too long…just long enough to appreciate that the sadness is over after you’ve successfully faced it and dealt with it. That’s the key, deal with your something…don’t dwell on it. For you see, even if you’re still in the same difficult situation that brought on your sadness, even if you can’s seem to move past your something…you can decide to be done being sad about…it right now!
The choice to be happy…despite your something…is totally yours!
I know it’s not easy, and some days you’ll do better than others. But decide today that no matter what you’re facing, no matter what your struggle, no matter how big your something is….you can choose to be happy today, right now! So embrace your something, embrace the grief, the pain, the emptiness…embrace whatever part of your something that afflicts you the most…face it, and then start moving forward with a positive, happy spirit, no matter what. And be proud of yourself for moving on…because only the very brave can!
I’ve obviously simplified things here, if your something is putting you or someone else at risk, seek appropriate help while you work on improving your positive attitude. There is help for everyone out there, you just have to ask:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233
The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
Rape Abuse and Incest National Network 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
Disaster Distress Helpline 1-800-985-5990
The GLBT National Help Center 1-888-THE-GLNH (888-843-4564)
Substance Abuse Mental Health Services Administration’s National Helpline 1-800-662-HELP (4357)