Yesterday was the first day of a brand new year! A year that will be full of difficult, sad and painful moments. A strange way to start a blog post about happiness I know. But pain and suffering are a part of this beautiful life we live. And if we just accept that these moments will come, and see them as an opportunity to create something good, we will be so much happier for it!
Your life can be as happy as you decide to make it! I learned this mantra I live by long ago in my childhood that was rife with chaos and sadness. I learned there, in my girlhood, that I could always see the sliver lining. I learned, amidst pain and fear, that in every single day, there was something beautiful to be seen, to be experienced. I learned that I just needed to focus on the good, and many days that was, and is, harder than others. And that’s ok.
Learning to see the good in everything is a habit I developed. I’ve been doing it so long I almost can’t remember when it started. But it’s been since childhood, so let’s say 30 years or so! I’m always seeing the good, so I get told regularly, only because I’ve been living this way a very long time.
So allow yourself some grace when your mother in law gets on your nerves at your next family get together. Cut yourself some slack when you feel the urge to quit your job because your boss seems like such an ungrateful slob. Somewhere in that anger and annoyance, there is something good…just look for it, you’ll find it!
Another beautiful lesson I learned in adulthood is to truly see my past as a blessing. Because within all the pain, from the earth shattering pain of grief, to the simple pain of feeling misunderstood, in all of it, I can always find something to be thankful for. One thing that makes it easier to see my pain as a blessing is that every day, God places people in my path who I’m able to help only BECAUSE of my pain.
But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day
to save many people alive.
So in this new, beautiful year that is ahead of you….see the WISH amongst the weeds. See the good in the bad, and realize that you can have immense happiness, every day, even amidst the pain. My wish for you is that this year is the happiest yet!